Why are you crying? Benefits, Interpretation behind human tears
MJ Gonzales │VigorBuddy.com
You can’t identify the reason behind a person’s tears, but you can simply conclude that’s an emotional outburst. Meanwhile, there are diverse reactions in crying as sometimes doing it in public may leave an impression if weakness or softness. In fact, the ‘boys don’t cry’ stigma is still alive even these days. Are you not afraid to cry because it gives you a great relief? Do you remember something noticeable the last time you weep?
According to the report of New York Times, there are deeper factors behind crying than mere result of sudden sadness or anger. Furthermore, various studies suggested that people may cry or not easily because also of their cultural, body system, and how they’re nourished during younger years. Thus, if a person doesn’t mind crying in front of people he or she may be brought up that it’s okay to shed tears to feel better. In the book “Seeing Through Tears: Crying and Attachment,” the author and therapist Judith Kay Nelson shared that there such things as ‘protest crying’ and ‘sad crying.’ The first type may pertain to a kind of upbringing where a child is not tolerated to cry. In effect, a person cries because of the feel of being helpless.
“You can’t work through grief if you’re stuck in protest crying, which is all about fixing it, fixing the loss,” Dr. Nelson imparted in her interview with New York Times. “And in therapy — as in close relationships — protest crying is very hard to soothe, because you can’t do anything right, you can’t undo the loss. On the other hand, sad crying that is an appeal for comfort from a loved one is a path to closeness and healing.”
NYT’s report also cited that the effect of crying is case-to-case thing because it boils down to people present and the situation when a person weeps.
“Almost all emotions are, at some level, directed at others, so their response is going to be very important,” James J. Gross, a psychologist at Stanford University to NYT.
Other than shedding emotional baggage, pbs.org imparted that those tears falling from your eyes have health benefits too. Three of significant helps of tears they mentioned are tears ‘prevent dehydration of our various mucous membranes,’ ‘lubricate our eyeballs and eyelids,’ serve as ‘antibacterial and antiviral agent’ that go against germs people obtain from things like shopping carts or computers, and ’remove toxins from our body that build up courtesy of stress.’
Backing up the theory that crying alleviates stress, Entrepreneur Magazine cited that even renowned geniuses like Steve Jobs would cry a lot to relieve tensions. Another point that the business magazine shared is tears can decrease the levels of mood-related substance manganese and ‘stress-causing hormones.’