5 Warning Signs that He is not Ready for a Real Relationship
By: Ana Margarita A. Olar| Vigorbuddy.com
We all want something from a relationship, don’t we? Yes, there are people who want a real relationship but they are just casual and not so “showy” about it. But how do you differentiate being casual, from those who are not serious about the relationship?
Here are some warning signs that he is not ready for a real relationship:
YOU ARE STUCK IN A RELATIONSHIP ROUTINE
Relationships are not a display and not even a gadget. It has life and it needs to be nourished. It needs to grow and it needs to mature. If he cannot see it or put some effort into it, then he may not be ready to have a real relationship.
HE IS A TAKER AND NEVER A GIVER
Emotionally, you have to give a part of yourself in a relationship. But, this should be mutual. You should give and you should also receive. This is also true in a financial aspect. You need money for your dates, travel, or even at leisure times. There are times that you can share with the expenses.
But NEVER should he let you pay all the expenses. This is also true on the emotional aspect. If you feel that you are the only one making efforts, it may be a sign that he is not ready for a real relationship.
HE HAS NO CLOSURE WITH THE PAST RELATIONSHIPS
When you had a relationship right after a previous relationship, you should be cautious. In fact, you should not have been in a relationship with this person at all. You don’t want to be a second choice right? If he’s never over the past, you cannot have a future with him. Let him take some time before he is ready to have a new and real relationship.
HE AVOIDS YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS
One sign that he is not ready for a real relationship is that he doesn’t make an effort to meet your family. “It is our relationship that matters most” will be his alibi. When he is ready, he will make his intentions clear by meeting your family. He will not rob you of your friends.
Rather, he will exert an effort to know your friends. If he is not interested meeting special persons in your life, maybe you are not that special to him.
HE HAS TRUST OR FIDELITY ISSUES
One of the red flags in a relationship is either, he doesn’t trust you, or you feel that you cannot trust him. A relationship should be built on love, trust and respect. The absence of one can lead to a hurtful rather than a loving relationship. If he has trust or loyalty issues, he may not be ready for a real relationship.
Does your man have these signs? Find time to talk to him, heart to heart. And then decide whether you should try more or to let go of the relationship.